Jun 9, 2013

Tadpole Fun

Yesterday, just before a rainstorm, my girls decided to rescue some tadpoles from a mud puddle in the drive.  Then they played in the rain for a bit.


 
Can you see all these tadpoles?
 
 
When I got home from church today, they had added some things to the tadpole "habitat".
 
 
We dug out an old aquarium and cleaned it up.

 
See how clean and shiny? 

 
Now we can see them more clearly!

 
We looked on a website to see how to take care of them.  http://www.whatdotadpoleseat.com
So we boiled 4 leaves of lettuce and chopped them up very finely.


 
And then we set them up in their new home for observation.


Jun 2, 2013

Little House on the Prairie Day Camp

As I was putting together my summer schedule, my girls expressed an interest in participating in a local 1850's Plantation History camp.  Participation in this camp costs a pretty penny for 40 hours of day camp.  My pocket book wouldn't allow me to spend that much money plus it is a 40 minute drive from my house - one way - so I started brainstorming.  Since we're planning to do a Little House road trip at the end of the summer, I thought maybe I could scour the internet and see what I could glean from homeschoolers and such regarding Little House activities, snacks, games, crafts, etc.

That being said, the Easy Fun School site seems to have nearly everything I need.  So I present this DIY Little House on the Prairie Day Camp which I will teach to my girls and a couple of their friends next week, 9 - 12, M-F.

We'll begin each day with a reading story:  Probably one of the excerpts from the My First Little House series or a chapter or two out of one of the larger books.

Activities:
  • Timeline
  • Map of Laura's travels
  • Feather (for Quill pen) and Berry Ink for letter writing
Crafts:
Snacks:
Pioneer Games:
  • Hop, Step, and Jump
  • Tug of War
  • Hoops and Graces
  • Blind Man's Bluff
  • Feather Dance
  • Comical Concert
  • I Spy
  • The Elements
  • Fly Away, Pigeon!
Edited to add some craft/activities ideas to research later:
  • Ma's Chores
    • Wash on Monday - Washboards and dishpans? Wash doll clothes?
    • Iron on Tuesday
    • Mend on Wednesday
    • Churn on Thursday
    • Clean on Friday
    • Bake on Saturday
    • Rest on Sunday
  • Sunday and The Story of Grandpa's Sled and the Pig
  • Going to Town
    • Pebble Pockets
    • Snack of Bread and butter, cheese, hard boiled eggs, cookies for the lakesdie picnic
  • The Deer in the Wood
    • Bread and Butter
  • A Little Prairie House
No-Sew rag doll
Bead necklaces (or make our own clay or paper beads?)
Paper dolls
Cousin Ed's "Straw" Hat
Wildflower seed packet to print and color, then fill with mystery wildflower seeds
Paper sunbonnets

Tentative schedule:

9:00 – 9:15
Prayer and Intro
9:15 – 9:30
Read Story
9:30 – 10:15
Baking activity
10:15 – 10:30
Snack
10:30 – 10:45
Game
10:45 – 11:30
Arts and Crafts
11:30 - 12
Clean up

May 14, 2013

Upcoming Missions Trips

I am excited to announce that my girls and I are embarking on Missions trips this year.  There are 2 that we're definitely going on, and 1 that we WANT to go on but are not yet sure that we can. 

We are starting out our missions adventure locally with a group of ladies who minister to poverty stricken children and their families.

First of all, our church has a team that goes to New Mexico every fall.  So, that will be our first trip.

Then in July of 2014, we'll be going to Nicaraqua. 

Finally, my girls and I are planning to go to Zambia to the Kazemba Orphanage and spend a month there during the summer.

We are very excited about these opportunies and covet your prayers as we prepare. 

Apr 30, 2013

Pennington Orientation

April 30, 2013:  I arrived at Pennington for an orientation session and was measure for BMI, blood pressure, weight, and height.

A poem about me from a former acquaintance


 
One day a girl – she came over
I felt like I’d found a four leaf clover.

We walked through parks with streams and trees
Skipping, jumping, very at ease.

We hunt and fish at our own leisure
Scaling and skinning, gutting for pleasure.

Also, when in my turck we do ride
I sit on the passenger side.

Hither and yonder, driving she goes
Clutching and shifting, dodging potholes.

I do not mind when she comes over
She is my own personal chauffer.

Thinking of her, I get melancholy
Her voice is a song – her eyes like a puppy’s.

So bright, so brown, tranquil they’re seeming,
But then look again, and you’d swear they were scheming.

She’s a girl, a woman, a companion worth mention
A give of laughs & smiles, not tension

Now it’s time that I be proposing
The eventual cause of this closing.

Before I do – I thought I’d mention, uh,
This girl, her name, it is Cynthia

-by Kenneth Harvey

 

Apr 22, 2013

Wild Child - By Shelby G. Bush

a poem from my Dad to my sister; his 3rd child and daughter "Dana"

Now I take up my pen to write
This daughter of mine, "Dana", who seems to be gone every night
Now I can't remember what she looks like
I've tried to get her to come see me with all my might
She could be fat or she could be slim
I don't know, because she's always gone with a "him".

Still I'll be hoping someday soon
She'll come and help me go run a coon
Or maybe she'll take time to give me a call
This daughter of mine who's no telling how tall.

Oh well, I guess I'll just have to understand
how at her age she's always chasing a man.

Apr 21, 2013

To My Red Haired Hussy - by Shelby G. Bush

A poem from my Dad to his 2nd wife.

Now I take up my pen to write
Something other than my usual gripe
To the most special person in my life
and that is non other than my wife.

A note in which to say
How much I appreciate her every day
All the little things she does for me
Really does open my eyes to see

And now I continue on
About the last couple years gone
How she must have really cared for this man
and how I plan to return that caring, if I can.

Now as more days come to pass
I do not plan on her to hear my sass
But instead if I use my head
Before one of us is dead
To make a joy of each day
and let actions speak instead of what I might say.

Apr 20, 2013

The Perfect Year by Unknown

Ring out the old, ring in the new
a midnight wish to share with you
Your lips are warm, my head is light
Were we in love before tonight?
Oh, I don't need a crowded barroom
Everything I want is here
If you're with me next year will be the perfect year

No need to hear music play
Your eyes say all there is to say
The stars can fade or they can shine
Long as your face is next to mine
I don't need a crowded barroom
Everything I need is here
If you're with me next year will be the perfect year

We don't need a crowded barroom
Everything we need is here
If you're with me next year will be the perfect year

It's New Year's Eve and hopes are high
Dance one year kiss one goodbye
Another chance another start
So many dreams to tease the heart
We don't need a crowded barroom
Everything we need is here
If you're with me next year will be the perfect year

Apr 18, 2013

The Friend who Just Stands By - by B.Y. Williams

When trouble comes your soul to try
Love the friend who just "stands by"
Perhaps there's nothing he can do -
The thing is strictly up to you.

For there are troubles all your own,
And paths the soul must tread alone
Times when love cannot smooth the road
Nor friendship life the heavy load.

But just to know you have a friend
Who will "stand by" until the end.
Whose sympathy through all endures
Whose warm handclasp is always yours

It helps, someway, to pull you through
Although there's nothing you can do
And so with fervent heart you cry
"God Bless the friend who just stands by".

Apr 17, 2013

The Baby - by George McDonald

Where did you come from baby dear?
Out of the everywhere, into the here.

Where did you get your eyes so blue?
Out of the sky as I came through.

What makes the light in the sparkle and spin?
Some of the starry spikes left in.

Where did you get that little tear?
I found it waiting when I got here.

What makes your forehead so smooth and tight?
A soft hand stroked it as I went by.

What makes your sheek like a warm white rose?
Something better than anyone knows.

Whence that three-cornered smile of bliss?
Three angels gave me at once a kiss.

Where did you get that pearly ear?
God spoke, and it came out to hear.

Where did you get those arms and hands?
Love made itself into hooks and bands.

Feet, whence did you come, you darling things?
From the same box as cherub's wings.

How did they all just come to be you?
God thought about me, and so I grew.

But how did you come to us, you dear?
God thought of you, and so I am here.

Apr 16, 2013

Piano Lessons written by my Aunt, Irene Bennett

Written by my aunt, Irene Vinyard Bennett, as a Christmas gift to the family in December 1997.

In her accompanying letter, she wrote,
            This narrative version of the truth about our piano is my 1997 Christmas present to you.

It is fairly accurate, although I can’t remember exactly when the Osborns gave us the piano, but it was between 1953 and 1960.  Daddy built the “shack” in two weeks the summer I was 11 or 12, 1953 or ’54, and then he had the Jim Walter home built in 1960, the summer I graduated from high school and had eye surgery.  I don’t know why but I don’t remember moving the piano from one to the other house.
I don’t remember exactly when, or how I went about deciding to return the piano, except it was in 1968-69 when Phil and I first lived in Nashville.  Daddy died in November, 1969.
The Christmas timing made it a better story for the contest I first wrote it for.  Our local paper, the Augusta Chronicle, chose someone else’s work to publish on Christmas Eve, so I deleted most of the fiction and changed pretend names back to the real ones just for you, but I left the fictional Christmas reference.
PIANO LESSONS
“Whispering Hope,” the large group of post-World War II teenagers in Sunday School that day sang a cappella because the adult classes had asked the only two youth pianists, Ray Lee and Judy Osborn, to accompany them.
“That makes me SO mad,” Irene complained to her friend, Virginia Bailey.  “Why don’t the adults let them stay in here?  They don’t seem to realize that we need a pianist, too!”  A little while later, she said, “I think I’ll just teach myself to play, so we won’t have to sing without music anymore!”
 
“Oh, can you really do that?” Virginia asked.
“Watch me,” replied Irene.
Irene Vinyard lived in Hammond, a small town in southeastern Louisiana, with her parents, maternal grandmother, and five younger brothers and sisters.  Her father worked as a maintenance man for Southeastern Louisiana College on the north side of town, while Mama and Grandma cared for the children on the south side of Hammond, in their crowded, three-room home Daddy had built with salvaged lumber in 1953 during his two-week vacation.  They all affectionately called it the Tar Paper Shack because of its single-canted roof and black insulating paper-covered walls.  The paper was attached with roofing nails and shiny protective washers.  Somehow he never got around to finishing it with the siding common to the gabled-roof houses in the neighborhood.  Every Sunday they walked about two miles to the small Woodland Park Baptist Church for Bible study and worship.
At Sunday Dinner when Irene told the family about her idea, Mama frustrated her by saying, “We don’t have the money to pay for lessons, and we don’t have a piano for you to practice on.  I don’t see how you can learn to play.”

One Sunday afternoon Irene went to church early.  Discovering no one in the fellowship hall, she began with one finger to pick out the melody of a hymn on the piano.  Several years of school chorus classes had taught her to read music, and she already knew the tunes from singing in church services.  However, as soon as anyone entered the room, she stopped, self-conscious about her lack of skill.
Such a start-and-stop-and-start-and-stop method might appear to be quite ineffective.  But, week after week as she tried to play with one finger, then two fingers, improvement gradually came.
First, the soprano, then the alto, next the tenor and bass lines, individually and then together – Irene worked determinedly one afternoon on the song, “Wonderful Words of Life.”  Suddenly she clapped and shouted, “Hooray!  Hooray!!”
“What’s all the yelling?” asked Raymond Osborn, coming in the door.
“Success!”  she grinned.  “That’s the first time I’ve played a hymn all the way through with both hands.”
“Well, congratulations,” the family friend replied. “Who is your piano teacher?”
“Me!” she joked and then said, “Seriously, no one.  I’m just trying to learn on my own.”
“Keep up the good work,” he said on his way out of the room.
Not long after that exchange, Irene received a call from Mrs. Pottle, a local piano teacher and wife of the head of the music department at Southeastern College.  She said, “Irene, I would like to teach you to play the piano without charging you.  Can you come over Tuesday afternoon at four o’clock?”
“Of course,” a surprised Irene said quickly.  “Thank you!”
On Tuesday afternoon, Mrs. Pottle explained, “A friend of your asked me to teach you.  He thinks you have promise as a pianist, so let’s begin.”
For thirty minutes, Irene was thrilled, carefully following instructions as she played the marvelous baby grand piano in the living room of the Pottles’ large, two-story, white frame house with a wrap-around porch next to the railroad near the college campus.  Then Dr. Pottle arrived home.
“What is happening here?” he asked.
“Meet Irene, my newest student,” she replied.
“Oh, no,” he announced, “you are not taking on another student.  You have been ill and there is no way you can add something else right now.  You know what the doctor said!”
Irene sat in stunned silence until an embarrassed Mrs. Pottle reluctantly said, “He’s right, Irene.  I really want to teach you, but I can’t at this time.”
So after only one half of a piano lesson, a dejected Irene plodded home alone.
Later on a warm July evening, as the Vinyard family ate their usual beans and rice and cornbreadc supper, the phone rang.  Mama answered it and almost immediately said, “Oh, no!”  When she finished talking, she turned and said, “Raymond Osborn has had a heart attack!”
After his hospitalization, Mr. Osborn recuperated at home for several weeks.  The doctor thought the south Louisiana heat in an unair-conditioned office might be too stressful for Raymond.  On his first day at home, his wife, Emilie, called Irene.
“Dr. Aycock wants someone to be with Raymond at all times in case of an emergency.  Since I work in the mornings and Ray Lee and Judy both have other obligations, I need help.  Would you come and sit with him?”
“Of course,” Irene answered.
When Irene arrived at the Osborn home the next morning, Mrs. Osborn explained, “I need you here while I work from 8:30 until 11:30 and then I will come home to prepare lunch.  Each day my husband will rest in the living room and read or do his paperwork.  You may bring something of your own with you to do.  If there is any problem, call the emergency number for help and then call me at my work number posted next to the phone.”
“Irene,” Mr. Osborn asked, as his wife left the house, “how are your piano lessons coming along?”
“I’m improving, sir,” she replied truthfully, “but it’s hard to do when I only practice once or twice a week at church.”
“Let’s make this a useful time then,” he suggested.  “We moved the old upright our children used into the hallway under the stairs when we bought our baby grand.  Why don’t you play it every day while you are here?  I will correct you when I hear something wrong.”
Delighted, she headed for the piano stool and twirled around on it until it was the right height.  “Start with some favorite of yours,” he called from the living room.  So she tried Christmas carols, only to discover that except for “O Come, All Ye Faithful,” most were written in keys she had difficulty playing.  She decided to try an easier hymn, “The Light of the World Is Jesus.”
“No, no, no,” Mr. Osborn finally objected.  “Stop jumping around, Irene.  Start with Hymn Number One, “Holy, Holy, Holy,” and work on it until you can play it all the way through without a single mistake!”
Irene groaned, but complied – day after day, three hours each morning for two weeks!  Following the same practice pattern she used at church, she could soon play several familiar hymns.  For some inexplicable reason, flats were always easier to play than sharps, so she preferred songs with those key signatures.  More importantly, she definitely developed the habit of daily practice.  So, after her “adult-sitting” job ended, she returned to her sporadic sessions at the church piano.  However, she still wasn’t ready for an audience of more than one.
Shortly before Christmas, Daddy cut a small pine tree from the nearby woods, anchored it in a pail of rocks, and all the children decorated it.  Reading Laura Ingalls Wilder’s books about frontier family life inspired the Vinyards to make popcorn strings and cranberry rope of their own.  Presents, however, were meager.
On Christmas Eve, a big truck backed into the front yard and five strong men piled out of it.  With Daddy’s help, they unloaded the extremely heavy piano that Irene practiced on at the Osborn home.  Maneuvering and re-maneuvering, they finally managed to squeeze it into Grandma and the girls’ ten-by-sixteen-foot bedroom along side their two full-sized beds, a cedar chifforobe, and a bookcase topped with a black rotary-dial telephone.  As they called “Merry Christmas!” and drove away, all the children were shouting, “Play something, Irene!”
Excitedly she tried, only to discover that all eighty-eight keys were stuck hard and fast.  Not a sound came from that piano!  With disappointment written all over her face, Irene cried, “What an awful Christmas present!  Why would anyone give us a piano that we can’t play?”
Daddy explained, “The roof at the Osborn house leaked and dripped water onto the piano, Irene; and no one saw it until it was too late.  Raymond thought we might be able to save it enough for you kids to enjoy anyway.”
“But, how?” they all chorused.
An experience maintenance person, Daddy thought out loud, “The presence of a steady, low heat should dry out wet wood so it doesn’t crack.  Let’s hang a light inside the piano that will burn all the time,” he proposed.
He quickly installed the bulb and then instructed them, “Every day, I want each one of you to play every key at least once.” And, that’s what six children, and sometimes Grandma, did, day after day, until the sound of each ivory-less key slowly rejoined the piano.  A trained musician would have flinched at the cacophony, but to Irene and her siblings, the old piano made mellow music.
With everyone wanting to play, the home-grown piano lessons sometimes became so enthusiastic that Daddy had to yell for peace and quiet.  Everyone, even the boys, Charles and Gary, took turns plunking away, although not all persevered to conquer the instrument.  Soon the once-wet-now-dry Christmas piano added daily tunes of joy to their lives.
Ultimately Irene reached her original goal.  Her friend, Virginia, proudly watched as she, and eventually two other sisters, play hymns on Sunday morning for the sixty-five teenagers in the Intermediate Department.  Later, on Youth Sunday, the Osborns and the Vinyards all beamed with pride as Irene played the organ and sister, Paulette, the piano.  Of course, Irene used the foot pedals only on “Flee As A Bird,” the offertory she and Paulette had worked on for hours.
Irene decided her next challenge would be to play hymns she didn’t know, so she began to sight read and then deliberately to learn new songs.  Her skills grew until she began to accompany congregational singing at the SLC Baptist Student Union chapel services and eventually she became the pianist for Sheilah Baptist Church in Tickfaw, a nearby community.
Several years later, Irene learned an even different piano lesson, when Daddy telephoned her to say, “Ray Lee, the oldest Osborn daughter, asks that we return the piano to her.”
Shocked and hurt, Irene asked angrily, “Why would anyone want to take back a Christmas present?  Especially after all these years?”
“Well, Irene,” Daddy explained, “she and her husband are into collecting antiques.  For sentimental reasons she wants to redo the old piano she and her brother and sister used growing up.  You can understand her feelings.”
“Oh, Daddy,” she groaned.  “I do understand that they all learned to play on it, but we did, too.  I love that old piano more than anyone can imagine.  What am I going to do?”
“It’s your decision,” he said.
The piano represented so many joys and accomplishments, years of fun and work to all the Vinyards, how could she give it back?  Besides, it was a beautiful piece of oak furniture that she had dreamed of refinishing herself for her own home one day.  For a person who possessed little of significance, owning that old piano filled with memories really mattered to her.
“It was a gift, after all, and no one is required to return a gift, is she?” Irene argued with herself for days.
Then on the Sunday morning before Christmas as she played carols on the church piano, she smiled, remembering how difficult those songs had been to play that first day at the Osborn home.  “What would Jesus do in this situation?” she asked herself.
When the congregation sang, “We Three Kings,” the words bearing gifts kept repeating in her mind.  Suddenly her hands faltered on the keyboard, because she realized that on her long ago Christmas Eve, Mr. Osborn had come bearing not the gift of a piano, but the gift of music.  He had given her the opportunity to learn to play ANY piano.
Tears of gratitude slid down Irene’s face as she realized she could give the gift of music, too, by returning the piano to his daughter.  The beloved old family treasure would evoke memories, memories of piano lessons and life lessons that now included the Vinyards as well as the Osborns.  The issue settled in her mind, Irene humbly sang with the other worshippers as she played, “Guide us to Thy Perfect Light.”
THE END


Apr 15, 2013

Our Love Was Meant to Be - a poem by Terry Matz

It amazes me
That out of the whole world
I would find the one person
Who would make my life complete ...

And that we were both
At the right place to meet,
And at the right time
In our lives to fall in love.

It makes me so thankful
for all that happened
To bring us together
And once again I realize
That our love
Was truly meant to be.

Apr 14, 2013

Crashed EHD and lost photos

I've been so bad with keeping up with my blog posts.  I suppose I should start doing a schedule or something.  I now have that wonderful little app on my phone that I need to utilize.  Anyway, I'm back here to search through all of my uploaded photos and recopy the ones I've uploaded.  Why?

Because my external hard drive died.  And in it's deceased state it took with it all my photos and videos from 2006 - this present time.  Six years worth of photos and videos are gone.  :(  The first six years of my baby's life.  Except for the few photos I've uploaded to Blogger and Facebook. 

I'm not sure about data recovery.  I've called a few places and have been told that due to the damage on the EHD, the data CAN be retreived but how badly do I want it?  Prices start at $250 just to make an attempt at retreival.  The techie I spoke with told me that it could get up to $2500 to retrieve those photos and videos.  Personally, IF I had the money, I would do it.  But reality is, I don't have that kind of money. 

Meanwhile, I'm gonna hang on to the hard drive, save my pennies, and hopefully, maybe one day soon, someone can dig out my memories for me. 

Longing - a poem by Matthew Arnold

Come to me in my dreams, and then
By day I shall be well again!
For then the night will more than pay
The hopeless longing of the day.

Come, as thou cam'st a thousand times,
A messenger from radiant climes,
And smile on thy new world, and be
as kind to others as to me!

Or, as thou never cam'st in soother,
Come now, and let me dream it truth;
And part my hair, and kiss my brow,
and say:  "My Love! Why suffrest thou?"

Come to me in my dreams, and then
By day I shall be well again!
For then the night will more than pay
The hopeless longing of the day.

Apr 13, 2013

Garden of Prayer by Elaine Arnold

I have found a peace in my garden
That rarely I've found anywhere;
In the growing things
There's a silence that sings,
So that mine is a garden of prayer.

Just to feel life lifting in beauty,
Up through the dirt and the sod!
In the growing of green
From the dark unseen,
I am learning the nearness of God.

I am learning the power of a Presence
As I walk in my garden there;
And I find that His love
Brings me peace from above,
For mine is a garden of prayer.

Apr 12, 2013

LOL Books - A List


Can You Keep a Secret? - Sophie Kinsella
Confessions of a Shopaholic – Sophie Kinsella
Shopaholic Ties the Knot – Sophie Kinsella

A Confederacy of Dunces - John Kennedy Toole

Mamma Makes Up Her Mind:  And Other Dangers of Southern Living - Bailey White

Being Dead is No Excuse - Gayden Metcalfe & Charlotte Hays

Skinny Dip:  The Series – Carl Hiaasen

We Thought You Would be Prettier:  True Tales of the Dorkiest Girl Alive – Laurie Notaro
The Idiot Girl’s Action Adventure Club:  True Tales from a Magnificent and Clumsy Life – Laurie Notaro

Fried Green Tomatoes at the Whistle Stop Café - Fannie Flagg

A Girl named Zippy – Haven Kimmel
She Got Up Off The Couch – Haven Kimmel

Little Altars Everywhere – Rebecca Wells

What Looks Like Crazy on an Ordinary Day – Pearl Cleage

Dress your family in Corduroy & Denim – David Sedaris
Me Talk Pretty One Day – David Sedaris

The Egg and I – Betty MacDonald

Mennonite in a Little Black Dress:  A Memoir of Going Home – Rhoda Janzen

Hypocrite in a Pouffy White Dress:  Tales of Growing Up Groovy and Clueless – Susan Jane Gilman

Like a Lampshade in a Whorehouse:  My Life in Comedy – Phyllis Diller

The sex lives of cannibals – J. Maarten Troost

Fraud – David Rakoff

Apr 11, 2013

Being Family

Sometimes being family means more than just smiles and good times,
It means caring for each other and building bridges of trust ...
It means not being afraid to ask and answer difficult questions ...
It means accepting one another for what we are ...
It means pulling together when things get rough,
Knowing that love will be there no matter what.

Apr 10, 2013

Because Someone has Faith in Me


 
Because someone has faith in me
I cannot fail though all the way
Winds up the hills.

My staff in hand and cheerily,
I can but fare me forth each day
With right good will.

Because someone has faith in me
I need to keep my heart quite true
My own faith strong,

My vision clear, that I may see
Undaunted by what meets my view
And sing a song.

God help me sing the song, I pray
God keep me clean and strong to go
Clear-eyed to see

The untrod, upward-winding way
For fail I cannot; One I know
Has faith in me.

 

Apr 9, 2013

Parents, it's okay to push your little piano student, but not off the bench

The following article appeared in a newspaper but I don't know WHICH newspaper because I had clipped that pertinent information off when I clipped the article out of my paper newpaper.

By Taprina K. Millburn

The whining and excuses begin as soon as I call my son into the living room.
He sits, begins to wiggle and explains that he has a rash on his arm.  No wonder, it’s time for piano practice.
He pecks on middle C and turns to me and tells me about a kid at school who stuffed toilet paper up his nose.
“Let’s talk about that after we practice,” I say.
Curl your fingers like spiders, I tell him and demonstrate to him how his teacher wants his fingers placed on the keys.
“I don’t like spiders,” he tells me.
Then he begins to scratch his invisible rash.
“I need to go to the bathroom; I’ll be right back,” he says as he hurries off.
His teacher tells me that my son, as a kindergartner, should only practice for five minutes a day.
It’s the longest five minutes of my life.
When he returns, I help place his fingers on the keys and listen to him ping out “Cowboy Joe.”  Wonderful, I tell him.
Four more minutes.
“Am I finished, yet?” he asks. “Because I really have to pee again.”
He stomps on the damper pedals and forgets where to begin, although I’ve pointed to middle C at least a hundred times.
My patience is slipping away.  How I wish it weren’t true, but as my son squirms and slides his bottom from side to side on the wooden piano bench, pretending to ride a wild horse, I feel my good humor being siphoned out.
He continues to look for other things to say or do – anything but playing his assignment.
That’s when I use my foghorn voice and his whining turns into real tears.
“It’s more fun playing for my piano teacher.  You’re grumpy,” he says to me and sits on his hands in protest.
If you rode her piano bench she’d be irritated, too, I want to say but I hold my words.
Three more minutes.
I turn the page of his book to the next piece and he reluctantly plays the notes.
Then I wonder if I’ve turned into one of THOSE parents.  The kind who pushes their kids too much – to be the best ball players, musicians, cheerleaders, or beauty queens.
The kind of parent whose children grow up to write tell-all books about them.
“I like this song,” he says and continues to play it three more times.  He’s forgotten about his rash or that he needs another bathroom break.
One more minute.
We flip the page and the wiggling and scratching begin again, but he plays the song and smiles.
“I’m finished, right?”
Practice is over, and he packs up his books.
“How long did I practice?”
“Five minutes”
“It felt like hours,” he said with a sigh.
DAYS.

You can get in touch with Taprina by mail at King Features Weekly Service, 628 Virginia Drive, Orlando, FL  32803 or by email to letters.kfs@hearstc.com.

Wild Horses - author unknown

Sometimes, across this land of silver grasses,
There comes a sound upon the listening air,
As if, along the old dim trails and passes,
Horses were there.

Galloping swiftly, riderless, unbidden,
Their smoky manes a blur against the light,
Wild horses that have never yet been ridden,
Lunging in fright.

Before some scent or sound, some windward gleaning,
of distant threat, their arching necks held high,
Their ears alert to catch the inner meaning
of step or cry ...

Almost I see them down the windy weather,
Their satin muscles rippling as they run,
Wild horses that have never known a tether,
Mates to the sun.

Mates to the lightening and the crashing thunder,
The black winged night, the white on rushing dawn --
Wild Horses -- ah the beauty and the wonder
of things long gone!

Be Patient with Me


 
Be patient with me

As I am just learning how to

Feel loves,

And sometimes I still get frightened

Understand how I feel

And how new this is to me,

Because I realize how very much

I love you.

Love is such a strange feeling

To have,

And sometimes I’m not sure if

I can deal with it.

I know it will take a while for me

To open up

And completely trust you

But I know it will happen

Because I want it to,

So, please,

Be patient with me.

Mar 23, 2013

2013-3-23 HBC Easter Extravaganza

The girls had fun at this year's Easter Exteavaganza. EB made an appearance.




Mar 21, 2013

2013-3-16 Sr. Prom

The Teen was miffed at me for making him take so many pics just before leaving to get his girl. When he DID leave, he forgot her corsage and had to return to get it which made him even more upset. But, he got over it and they had a grand time!






Dec 20, 2012

12 Preplanned, Prepaid Dates

It's the weekend before Christmas and I haven't finished all my Christmas stuff yet.  In fact, I haven't gotten anything for my Dahlin'.  However, I've spent hours and hours on Pinterest.com and stumbled upon this great idea!!!  12 preplanned & prepaid dates!!!  Each one assigned to a certain month!  Isn't that a fun thing!?

So, I sat down at the computer and made my list of Dates.  I haven't really assigned each one to a month yet but I'm gonna list my ideas here for your enjoyment.

Date #1
Cooking Class at LCAI = at $100 per person this will probably be our most expensive date!
 
Date #2
Skeet Shooting = we have a skeet thrower and own property where we could just go out, shoot to our heart's content, and have a picnic.  BUT if you don't, you could always find a shooting range to do this.  In our neck of the woods, there are a couple of places you can go.  The Amite Skeet Club looks real nice and there's also a list here where you can hunt for shooting ranges by state.
 
Date #3
Zoo Date!!!  Self-Explanatory
 
Date #4
Here we have the Global Wildlife Safari which is similar to the zoo but a very different experience.
 
Date #5
Bowling Date
 
Date #6
Planetarium Date
 
Date #7
Walking Tour of downtown area
 
Date #8
Comedy Club
 
Date #9
Pick Your Own Fruit date
 
Date #10
Fishing and picnic date
 
Date #11
Mini golf
 
Date #12
Riverboat Dinner Cruise

 
 
And there ya have it.  I'm currently working on getting all these put into individual packets complete with prepaid gift cards and brochures as well as menus for the dinner location for that night.  I'll be back to post as we have our date nights.  Stay tuned!

Dec 4, 2012

My wish list 2012

For Christmas this year, I sent Santa my wish list.

1.  Computer
2.  Horse
3.  Personal Assistant

Well, so far, I have a computer. 

I ALMOST had a horse, and still might, but there are some things that have come to mind while processing the fact that I might have a horse.

Starting off, I have 38 acres of property on which said horse would be mighty happy.  My father has 35 acres sitting next to mine.  The difference between the two is that his is fenced and mine is not.  On the assumption that he would be happy to have my horse on his property for a temporary visit while I fence mine and build a horse shelter, I went looking for a horse. 

Though I haven't yet handed money over, I have truly bonded with the whole IDEA of buying her.  I met her, pet her, smelled her.  Dreamed of riding her but haven't gotten that opportunity yet.  After ALMOST buying her, I decided to wait and talk to my dad.  Well, my initial assumption was wrong.  He does NOT want my animal on his property.  I don't know why.  I just know that it made me mad. 

My husband accused me of not thinking things through regarding the purchase of this horse.  I assured him that I have done my homework.  I'm not stupid.  I know horse care will be time consuming and expensive ... even for a healthy horse!

Then I started thinking.  Maybe purchasing this first horse isn't such a good idea.  Yet.  I have some other things that I need to purchase first.  Things that don't eat or drink.  Things that I'll need to have on hand for proper horse care and enjoyment of such.  So, my current game plan is to fence my property, build a shelter, and start stocking it with things needed for my horse. 

THEN, I'll go looking for the horse for me.  The one that I'll get to ride around the country with.  The one that will lay down basking in the field and let me use her for a pillow.  The one that I have dreamed of having and enjoying for the past 15 years. 

I think I'm going through a mid life crisis as this horse obsession has become even more of an obsession!

Aug 31, 2012

Unpleasant Police Chief Encounter

During the Hurricane Isaac aftermath, I endured only 1 night of sweaty sleep before caving in and running to my Mommy's house where she has electricy and, most importantly, air conditioning.  Getting up this morning, I made a little list of somethings I needed to take care of.  Such as, getting back to my home, washing out the really big ice chest, and loading it up with ice to protect some meats.  Looking back, I should've done that on Monday or Tuesday before I lost power.

I procrastinated too long, I suppose.  My 18 y.o. son, 8 y.o. and 6 y.o. daughters, and I left my mom's approximately 1:30 p.m. and went through Cane's for some lunch and then proceeded to Rushing Road (across the street from Burger King) in order to get on the interstate towards my home.  For those familiar with the area, when pulling out of the parking lot, I had to make a right hand turn and immediately get in the left hand turn lane.  When I approached the Rushing/Range intersection, I had a green arrow ... so I entered the intersection.  I entered the LH turn lane, but didn't get any further due to the backed up traffic in that lane.  I looked ahead and saw a green light there, but the intersection there was also blocked by an 18 wheeler rig. 

I attempted to assess the situation I was in since now I'm sitting in the middle of the intersection and need to get out of it.  I turned my head as far to the right as possible in order to look over my right shoulder for oncoming traffic.  It was hard to see anything since my vehicle was turned to the left.  Taking a chance, I changed lanes and got into the center lane to exit the intersection and pass the backed up traffic in that LH turn lane.  My intent was to get through the next 2 intersections, make a left turn and come back to make a RIGHT turn onto the interstate. 
As soon as I changed lanes, a man in a plain white vehicle pulled up on the right hand side of my vehicle and motioned to my son to roll down the window.  At this point, the LH turn lane is backed up, I'm stopped in the center lane, and he is stopped in the R lane.  There is traffic backed up behind both of us.  He addressed me in not so friendly terms and began screaming at me that "if you don't know not to enter a blocked intersection, then you don't need to be driving!"  Thinking he was just another idiot, I rolled up the window and pressed the gas pedal in order to CLEAR THE INTERSECTION! 

He then pulled his plain white car directly behind me and I immediately saw these pretty flashing blue lights and heard a siren.  Great.  He's a cop?  So, I (still in the center lane) turned on my blinker and moved into the Right Lane and as far off the road as possible.  The thing is, at this point, there is no shoulder where I stopped.  Therefore, now BOTH vehicles are blocking the Right Lane.

I asked my son to hand me the essentials out of the glovebox.  I had them in my hand when HE approached the driver's side window.  Then the rain began.  I rolled down my window, and there HE stands in a black dress shirt embroidered with the DSPD logo on the left pec area.  Not on the outside of the shoulder.  With my peripheral vision, I saw some embroidery also on the opposite side but did not note the details.  HE begans berating my driving, saying things like, "Don't you KNOW you aren't supposed to enter an intersection if there's no where for you to go?  You had a hundred ways out of that situation but you just sat there!!!"  Yada Yada, (his mouth was moving but I wasn't hearing him at this point).  When he took a breath, I responded, "I had a green light, I looked ahead to see where I COULD go, I looked behind me to avoid ONCOMING traffic.  I did the best I could to assess and move."  (I'm guessing I was bit to slow from his observation.) He opened his mouth again and said, "Did you not see that I'm a police officer?" to which I said, "No!" (Duh dude!  You're in an UNMARKED car and wearing a black DRESS SHIRT!  So sorry that I did not take notice what you're "profession" is.)

He saw that I had my stuff and said, "Do you WANT me to write you a ticket?" and the Lord must have had pity on me then because the rain began coming down with a vengence while HE was standing by my door with his hands on his hips.  I THINK I said, "If you feel the need." (Maybe not, but I should have.) I know I started to hand him my stuff.  Then horror of horrors, the most mortifying thing happened.  I started blubbering....turned on the water works.... you know, cryyyyyiiiinnggg.  I know I said something about having to get home and "I have been TRYING to get in that LH turn lane!  Do you think you could help me get there?"

Then he did the most astounding thing.  He shut up.  He looked at me, took a step back, and held up his hand in the traffic, holding up both lanes in order for me to cross waaaaayyyyy over there in that LH turn lane where I wanted so badly to be in the first place! 

Not one to look a gift horse in the mouth, I pressed the gas and got my vehicle where I needed to be.  My girls had been so good during the entire incident, not making a peep in their seats.  Once he cleared the way for us to make the move, my youngest started wailing, "I WANT MY DADDY!!!!"  I felt so bad for her that she had witnessed this entire encounter, bravely sitting quiet, yet scared to death.

I got on the interstate, reliving the entire episode in my head as I drove, trying to figure out why he looked familiar but yet unfamiliar.  About 5 miles later, it dawned on me just who HE was, it had been a long time since seeing him driving alongside the schoolbus I'd ridden on 20+ years ago.  Being a law abiding citizen and voter in a neighboring town, I really didn't have a need to know who he was.  So, during THIS encounter, I was just a tad bit slow on the recognition. 

In the future, if I happen to be driving along in front of you and I don't move when my light turns green, this encounter will be the reason why I DON'T get out of your way.  You've been warned.

Mar 3, 2012

20 ways to say “I love you”


I am typing this article from a clipping I saved dated May 2002 of Redbook magazine written by Nancy Evans
Nancy Evans is a founder and the editor-in-chief of the online women's network iVillage.com (http://www.ivillage.com/).


Of course you're crazy about your kids. Below, tips that'll show them just how much.

Like most moms, you probably can't begin to count the ways your love expresses itself, from the shoes tied to the knee scrapes made "all better." Nor do you track the sleep lost or worries concealed. Your love – and the ways you show it – is boundless, all-embracing, as natural as breathing.If we're lucky, those feelings get reflected back to us in priceless ways, such as homemade cards that say "I love you" and a grateful hug after a comforting talk.

All the more reason to go ahead and outdo yourself. Shower your kids with maternal love in grand style with these ideas from the women at iVillage.com.And by the way: Happy Mother's Day.
  1. "My daughter and I squeeze hands three times to say "I love you." It's a sweet secret between us."
  2. "I wrap my kids' lunch sandwiches in colored waxed paper an dseal them with heart stickers for a midday 'hug'."
  3. "My husband uses a turkey baster to make pancakes in the shapes of our kids' favorite things: hockey sticks, paper dolls, Mickey Mouse, whatever!"
  4. "I frame and display my kids' artwork, straight A's, and varsity letters. It tells them I love to show them off!"
  5. "I taught my daughter how to say 'I love you' in sign language: Hand upright, with the middle and ring fingers bent down and the thumb, index finger, and pinkie extended. We sign as she's riding away on the school bush each morning."
  6. "Every year on the eve of my daughter's birthday, I sneak into her room while she's sleeping and decorate it with streamers and balloons. She loves waking up in a birthday fairyland!"
  7. "I ask my children all the time, 'Have I told you lately that I love you?' Usually they say, 'Yes, ten minutes ago,' but it gets my point across!"
  8. "I've started writing yearly 'love letters' to my children and putting them away in their baby books. I talk about their likes and dislikes, their quirks, and important events in their lives so they'll always have a reminder of how blessed I feel to be their mother."
  9. "Every night as they lie in bed, I tell my children 'I love you bigger than the sky,' and I hold my arms out as far as I can. My kids look forward to it."
  10. "Because I just went back to school, I'm often not at home when my husband puts my daughter to bed. So that I can still 'be' there for her at bedtime, I made tape recordings of myself reading her favorite books."
  11. "Recently my husband and I made a family tree with our son. We drew a big heart around his name and hung the tree over our bed to show him that he has a place in our hearts."
  12. "My husband and I always ask our daughter about her new favorite thing – band, clothing designer, TV show – so we can treat her to a new CD or shirt after she accomplishes something great. That way she knows we listen!"
  13. "Now and then I'll leave work early and surprise my son by picking him up from school. We go out for ice cream and great one-on-one time."
  14. "I send my daughter letters and cards, just to say 'Thinking of you.'"
  15. "Once a month I give my daughter a manicure and pedicure."
  16. "We use a high five to say 'I love you' when my son needs a boost – like before a soccer game – so he won't be embarrassed in front of his friends."
  17. "Sometimes I'll treat my kids to a reverse dinner: dessert first!"
  18. "When I'm on the phone with a friend and my daughter walks into the room, I mention how great she's doing in school or ballet class. It shows her I'm proud of her."
  19. "My husband and I create coupons that say 'No chores' or 'five-minute backrub' for our kids to redeem when they need a lift.
  20. "Hugs, hugs, and more hugs!"

Mar 2, 2012

Key to long marriage: Do what your wife wants


This article was printed in the Baton Rouge paper on Feb 21, 1998
By Thomas H. Maugh II
Los Angeles Times

Husbands, forget all that psychobabble about active listening and validation.

If you want your marriage to last for a long time, the newest advice from psychologists is quite simple: Just do what your wife says. Go ahead, give in to her.

Active listening, in which one partner paraphrases the other partner's concerns – "So what I hear you saying is …" – is unnatural and requires too much of people in the midst of emotional conflict, says psychologist john Gottman of the University of Washington. "Asking that of couples is like requiring emotional gymnastics," he says.

Gottman and his colleagues studied 130 newlywed couples for six years in an effort to find ways to predict both marital success and failure.

Couples who used such techniques were no more likely to stay together than couples who did not, they are to report today in the Journal of Marriage and the Family, which is published by the National Council on Family Relations.

"We need to convey how shocked and surprised we were by these results for the active listening model," the team admitted in the article.

In fact, Gottman and his colleagues have long recommended active listening to couples seeking counseling and had expected that its use would be a predictor of success in marriages.

That it was not a predictor, he said, suggests that its widespread use in marital counseling should be abandoned.

The marriages that did work well all had one thing in common – the husband was willing to give into the wife.
"We found that only those newlywed men who are accepting of influence from their wives are ending up in happy, stable marriages," Gottman said. The autocrats who failed to listen to their wives' complaints, greeting them with stonewalling, contempt and belligerence were doomed from the beginning, they found.
But the study did not let wives completely off the hook.

Women who couched their complaints in a gentle, soothing, perhaps even humorous approach to the husband were more likely to have happy marriages than those who were more belligerent.

"That type of (belligerent) response is even more exaggerated in violent marriages," he added.
The fact that happily married couples do not normally use active listening is not a surprise, according to psychologist Howard Markman of the University of Denver, author of the 1994 book "Fighting For Your Marriage".

"We've found that in our own studies," he said.

In fact, he argues that Gottman is setting up a "straw man" in the study of active listening and validation, which is another form of recognizing the legitimacy of a spouse's opinions.

"When active listening is taught, it is not because happy couples use it," Markman said.
"We use it to help couples disrupt the negative patterns that predict divorce."
Gottman said he is "very sympathetic" to that idea.

"If you can genuinely listen and be empathetic when you are the target of the complaint, that can be very powerful," he said.

But for the average person, he said, "it is just too hard. The average person meets anger with anger."

The differences between Gottman and Markman are typical of the turmoil in the field of marital counseling.
A 1993 report argued that marital therapy has a relapse rates so high "that the entire enterprise may be in a state of crisis."

A recent Consumer Reports study found that people who underwent such therapy were the least satisfied among people who had undergone any form of psychotherapy.

Gottman's study was designed to identify the factors that naturally contribute to a successful marriage so those might be brought into play in therapy, thereby making it more successful.

"If you want to change marriages," he said, "You have to talk about the 'emotionally intelligent' husband. Some men are really good at accepting a wife's influence, at finding something reasonable in a partner's complaint to agree with." That group represents perhaps a third of all men, he added.

"Another group just rejects all attempts at influence. That's very characteristic of violent men," he said, but a majority of men do it to some extent.

"They feel, 'If I give in on this, I'm going to lose everything. I'm going to be totally manipulated and controlled."

That is not to say that men are the source of all problems in a marriage, he hastens to add.
But changing the attitudes of men "is a very powerful lever" in changing the course of a marriage.

"The only way to change marriage for the better is to improve the quality of friendship between a husband and wife and to help them deal with disagreements differently," Gottman says.

"There has to be a kind of gentleness in the way conflict is managed. Men have to be more accepting of a woman's position, and women have to be more gentl in starting up discussions."

Mar 1, 2012

The pleasures of being a mom,


33 little things that we really love about it
Copied from an article printed in Redbook Magazine, May 2002.
By Veronique Vienne


Parenting can be a tough job, but the rewards are endless. In the spirit of Mother's Day, we thought we'd name just a few of the ways little people enrich your lives.
12 REASONS TO HAVE CHILDREN: Why go to the trouble of having kids? Consider the following:
  1. You wish to pass on to posterity the best qualities of your mate.
  2. You wish to pass on to posterity your sense of humor.
  3. You need a good excuse for baking chocolate-chip cookies.
  4. You need an excuse for being broke.
  5. You love children.
  6. You love major disruptions.
  7. You'd like to give your parents a grandchild.
  8. You'd like to give your in-laws a chance to treat you as their own child.
  9. You want to be the mother of his children.
  10. You are ready to settle down.
  11. You are ready to learn to blow someone else's nose.
  12. You are ready to experience pure joy in your lifetime.
MOM-ISMS THAT REALLY WORK: Your kids will respect you if you tell them the truth. When they ask you why you want them to behave a certain way, don't try to bribe, threaten, or deceive them, or lose your patience and declare, "Because I say so." Try these fresh answers instead:
  1. Because we'll both feel better when it's over.
  2. Because I'm running out of ideas for getting you to put your socks on.
  3. Because I'm bigger than you are.
  4. Because I really need you to help me get out of the house on time.
  5. Because I don't want the lady across the street to think I'm a bad mom.
  6. Because you don't have a better offer yet.
  7. Because you I don't feel like getting mad at you right now.
  8. Because you don't want to give people who don't like kids more reasons to be right.
  9. Because you are my best friend on earth.
CUTE NAMES TO CALL YOUR KID: Kids are so cute, we sometimes say, "I love you so much, I could just eat you right up!" Need more inspiration for putting your love into words? Then in addition to the nicknames you already call your little one, try these sweet and silly terms of endearment. They will establish a delicious bond of affection between you and your child, bringing you even closer.
  1. Angle Cake
  2. Pumpkin
  3. Gumdrop
  4. Sweetie Pie
  5. Dumplin'
  6. Cupcake
  7. Peanut
  8. Honey Bun
  9. Sugarplum
  10. Sweet Pea
  11. Muffin
  12. Butter Bean


From the Art of Expecting by Veronique Vienne.